Well good thing for Katie she's cute! Because she really really hates her momma right now and if she wasn't so much fun to look at I would end up under the covers in my hotel room feeling sorry for myself. As we expected, Katie picked one parent to bond to and that happens to be Patrick. She is truly a velcro monkey right now and wont even let him put her down to go to the bathroom. Yesterday when all this started and she had completely rejected me, I was really upset and had my heart broken. But today is another day, and I know that although it stinks for me, it's a good sign that she is able to trust Patrick and is attaching to someone. I think she is really angry with women right now because its always women that abandon her, most recently her nanny at the orphanage. So she feels safer with men and is really really angry with females. Understandable considering all she has been through.
Last night she was up alot crying and would only sleep directly on Patricks chest. She also just threw up all over her crib and now will only sleep on Patrick's chest (that puke smell in her hair will help lull him to sleep, right?)
I am completely useless. If I come within 3 feet of her she just shuts down and cries. It is very sad but I am truly keeping a good attitude about it.
Today we went to Shaolin Temple where high powered Buhdist Monks were buried inside the tall tombs. We then got to see a Kung Fu show.I have decided that no one will ever have to worry about me packing up my things and moving to China. Although its cool to experience, the smog is horrible, the traffic is terrifying and people are downright rude and disrespectful here. Plus the men spit loogies inside buildings on the floor and all the kids wear pants that are missing the crotch and they just pee wherever they feel like it. Yes, this means in the isles of the Walmart so when I kept seeing puddles of "water" all over the store, I realized it was pee-pee. Yuck. I know its a different culture and that I need to be understanding, but when they push and shove to get into buildings and cut in line when I am first to go into the "squaty- potty" its just annoying.
Here are some pictures of Katie today. Patrick can get her to smile and giggle and play with toys, as long as I am nowhere in site. Hence, any of these pictures are taken from around the corner so she wont start bawling. Pray that she will quickly attach to me, or at least like me enough to allow me to sit next to her without her pitching a fit! I thought only teenagers hated their mothers! Oy!
Hang it there this will pass and you will laugh about it with her someday! You are right that although difficult for you it is a good sign that she is bonding with Patrick. Hope things improve very soon. I have heard other people mention that moving on to Guangzhou and the change of location can help for whatever reason. She is so cute!! Lee
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It can be so hard. Cadence bonded with her daddy first too, and although I was prepared for it it was still hard. She'll come around and she is adorable! Guangzhou (or Shamian Island at least) is clean and beautiful and the people are so friendly. It is a nice way to end a stressful and tiring trip. Good luck and I'll keep you all in my prayers.
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